I am just a simple man, Ladies plz help

[2ndgenz28]

I am just a simple man, Ladies plz help

what did I miss? what hidden code in all that am I not seeing?


Me: Hollar if u want a visit later 3:10 PM
Her: Not really but ok 3:12 PM
Me: Ok 4:20 PM
Her: So your not coming over? 4:46 PM
Me: I don't know its up to you, your reply of not really sounded like a no here. Tell me when 4:56 PM
Her: Look if u dont want to see me thats fine 4:58 PM
Me: Sweety, I asked to see u, u said not really like ur busy, all I said was ok. Yes I want to see u, just say when so I can get ready 5:15 PM
Me: Give me an idea on time, gonna need good hr to get ready, very grungy here 5:30 PM
Her: Forget it 5:33 PM
Me: Ok? I love ya, sorry I need a shower n shave first, are the kids drivin u nuts or me 5:38 PM
Her: The kids never drive me nuts 5:44 PM
Me: I can leave now in my week old clothes, matted hair n a nice natural body order sounds good, dunno why askin when sets u off, just tryin to look nice for ya :-) 5:46 PM
Her: Im just playing around. Take a shower i dont give a **** 5:49 PM
Me: what's wrong? Your all over the place, I have no clue how I'm to respond 5:52 PM
Her: Matt do what u want 5:55 PM
Me: I wanna choke ya a little, maybe you'll make more sense with less oxygen :-) 5:57 PM
Me: Ok I won't ask what time anymore, I'll just show up at random times, I dunno how askin to see u makes u so upset 5:59 PM
Her: U didnt, u said let me know if i want to see u. Not u me 6:01 PM
Me: Of course I asked, you or the kids sometimes have things to do, or your tired or.... so I asked if you were up for it 6:04 PM
Her: But just last week u were saying u felt like an outsider so trying here. MEN smdh 6:07 PM
Me: I'm sooooooo lost 6:10 PM
Her: K 6:14 PM
Me: Just tell me what to do, I'm just a simple man, I'm not that smart, what am I missin , I do love u but am soooo lost 6:19 PM
Her: Do what u want to do 6:20 PM

[Mr. iNCREDIBLE]

based on her responses, it seems like she wants you to say

"I want to see you, can I come over" instead of

"if you want to see me let me know"


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[Iwantone2]

Depends at what stage the relationship is in...that is what dictates how the conversation should go or what words should be used...

Sorry, I know you wanted women to respond, but when I started laughing, I had to keep reading

[whemming]

Not to be rude, but call her. Text messaging is not the way to have this conversation.

[TRC-SS]

Ahhh the good old mind tricks....boy i dont miss those day

Based on the conversation im she sounds young....but the talk of kids is throwing me off.

I have to agree with Mr incredible....Be more straight forward with her and leave out the open ended questions. Like your first statement should have been. Hey can i come visit you in a bit? Then its either yes or no....or "if you want" if its a maturity issue. But i would use the phone....not text, cause text messages can be hard to judge

But to me bud it sounds like you got your hands full. Good luck

[midnighter]

Tell her you'll be right over, go see her, and be with her. That's all she wants. No need to make a big deal over what it sounded like she meant. Now go get her tiger!

[Camaro_Corvette]

If it is any help, I would be completely freaking lost like you.

[2Carats]

The 5 Love Languages.... get it, read it, live it!

Mind controlled by Cerebro

[2010SS2SS]

Not sure why they (Women) do that! You ask them a question like, Where do you want to go for dinner? And repsonse is where ever, You ask what movie would you like to see and get which ever... Then if you don't "guess" the right one, your doomed!

[Steve Dallas]

Typing a message isn't the best way to have clear communication. You never really know when it could be sarcasm, anger or happiness.

[naSSty1]

Just my two cents here but it sounds to me like she want a man who knows what he wants, not wants to know if its ok. I'm no genious but I don't find this to hard to figure out. She doesn't want you to visit her like she's some dying grandmother. Should have started off like, Hey babe I'm headed over to your place, you need anything?

[Mr. iNCREDIBLE]

Originally Posted by 2010SS2SS

Not sure why they (Women) do that! You ask them a question like, Where do you want to go for dinner? And repsonse is where ever, You ask what movie would you like to see and get which ever... Then if you don't "guess" the right one, your doomed!

never ask an open ended question..


instead of "where do you want to go for dinner?" it's "would you like to go to Restaurant A or B"

instead of "what movie" it's "which movie, A or B?"


and the most important words you can learn in any relationship is...


"yes dear" and "you're right dear" don't have to mean them, just have to know how and when to use them...


as far as the texting goes, it's a matter of being clear, my wife and I talk thru text a lot, (3000+ a month usually) in certain circumstances it is a lot easier, however I am always clear and concise and never ask open ended questions.. only A or B choices or Yes or No answers.. Otherwise you are doomed for the cold shoulder "whatever" response..

Originally Posted by naSSty1

Just my two cents here but it sounds to me like she want a man who knows what he wants, not wants to know if its ok. I'm no genious but I don't find this to hard to figure out. She doesn't want you to visit her like she's some dying grandmother. Should have started off like, Hey babe I'm headed over to your place, you need anything?

BINGO!!!! give this man a cigar.

[Rhyder]

Originally Posted by Mr. iNCREDIBLE

based on her responses, it seems like she wants you to say

"I want to see you, can I come over" instead of

"if you want to see me let me know"


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This

I think Mr. Incredible actually does have a sinsetive side.......

[Mr. iNCREDIBLE]

Originally Posted by Rhyder

This

I think Mr. Incredible actually does have a sinsetive side.......

of course I do..

I just have a low tolerance for repeated questions, wrong information and misuse of grammar and misspellings.