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monstertodd · 04-19-2010, 02:34 AM

My girlfriend and I are arguing right now because we can't figure out what kind of wedding we want.

It's really frustrating because she keeps saying that I don't care, or she doesn't want to plan this by her self. She keeps saying she wants a special wedding, but doesn't have any ideas about what that is. She's the first woman i've ever encountered that didn't know exactly how she wanted her wedding to be. I keep suggesting, "well lets do it on the beach" or "lets go to vegas" or "lets just go see the JP". Am I not being involved enough? I don't know how to plan a wedding! I am not religious, and am not into conventional weddings, and neither is she.

It's hard to plan a wedding from Afghanistan!

How involved were you in the day to day planning of your wedding? Any tips or ideas for planning a wedding?

I've been married before, but I was overseas when all the planning was going on, and really didn't have any say in how things were (well only that I was going to wear my uniform).

Help me Camaro5, you're my only hope......

Dreamer2430 · 04-19-2010, 07:36 AM

I know exactly where you're coming from. I was in Africa (Dem. Republic of Congo) for 3 months and when I got back she told me everything was taken care of. Well "everything" was actually just the location. Well, from what I hear that's the hard part. I looked up all the small stuff (DJs, Flower people, ect. . .) on the internet. I think that the net is going to be really helpful with your distance. Find out what small stuff needs to get planned, look it up on the net and send her info and ask which companies she is willing to meet with. My fiance was ready to start pulling her hair out over all these small details. Planning out the just the DJ really earned me some browie points and all I did was gather info and see which companies she liked best.

Sir Nuke · 04-19-2010, 08:14 AM

well WE got married in Vegas.......we love going there anyway, so that part was a no brainer for us....but the WHERE was my choice. I did a lot of research on all the chappels and the packages available. We got married at the Excaliber they had a BEAUTIFUL chappel. and OUT THE DOOR was only about $800. Here is a picture of their Chappel.

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springerpete · 04-19-2010, 08:26 AM

We had a small town wedding. I picked out what my groomsmen wore. It had a western theme. All of my groomsmen wore long wool frock style coats like the ones in Tombstone with the gambler's style ribbon tie.

Wedding are a lot of work for just 20 minutes of formality. Remember that day is for her. The funny thing now is that my wife and many of her friends say if they had to do it over again that they would run off. (RUNN OFT) It's too much stress for just one day.

ron10 · 04-19-2010, 08:41 AM

get married at a justice of the piece.spend the money it would cost for a big wedding on your car.

franknbeans · 04-19-2010, 08:51 AM

Lets see if I can help you out some. . . I'm a professional Wedding DJ in the Pittsburgh area. . . I do about 40 weddings a year and only see the involvement of the groom in about 5-8 weddings.

I was very involved planning my wedding. . . I see weddings every weekend and knew what I wanted. . . But this isn't the case in most weddings.

What I recommend is first decide on a budget for your wedding. . . This will lead into what you can do. . .

Most my couples are either Dr. or Lawyers and spend roughly 50-65K per wedding. (crazy i know)

IMO these two things you can NOT skimp on:
First, Great Wedding Photographer - In the Pittsburgh area photographers run from 1k up to 5-6k. . . I would do some researching but would look around the $3500 price range for your photographer. The photos are the only thing you will have 20, 50 years down the road.
Second, is a well known and GREAT wedding DJ. . .Prices very A LOT. . . but the industry average is around 1000-1200. I would look in the $1500- 2k range. The DJ can ruin any event . . . bad music, bad mic skills, bad organization, bad flow of the night. . . I've seen my share of horrible wedding DJ's.

Drop me your email address via PM and I'll send out some info that you can share with your fiancée.

Stingr69 · 04-19-2010, 09:59 AM

I picked the girl. That's about it.

Not really

- My wife has been down the isle before but it was my first so I got a lot more involved. She wanted it that way and it fits our personalities well. This is what we planned:

My Stepfather has been my pastor for most of my life and my cousin is also a pastor so that part was easy - we had two pastors officiating. What else could we do?

My Mother's side of the family belongs to a very old, super tiny, country church. - Easy choice and romantic.

We had the reception at a VERY, VERY, GAUDY Italian place with amazing food.

They know how to put on a reception and everybody loved it.

It cost more to do it at a good place but if the guest list is short enough, it will work.

We were married in Buffalo which is close to Niagara Falls so we started the honeymoon by driving up to the falls and all it cost was gas.

We flew to San Francisco for 2 days where we spent time at my Dad's place and did the Fisherman's warf thing (waiting for our flight to Hawaii). My Dad gave us a week at a timeshare in Maui for a wedding gift so that was part 3.

Some of that was costly but a large part of it was not. You can do a lot with a little if you plan carefully and take advantage of opportunity where you can find it.

Advice - If this is your first wedding, have some fun, spend some money and enjoy the day no matter what happes. Oh, and be sure to pack some clothes for the day after. Some people forget to do that and have to wear thier tux again the next day. Not that it ever happened to me or anything.

Eloping is GREAT way to do it if you want romantic and do not have the cash for a big party. Don't tell anyone until after it is over so nobody feels left out. Think of all the stories you will be able to tell.

Fun!

Hope it all works out great for you!

-Mark.

monstertodd · 04-19-2010, 10:34 AM

Wow! Great advice everyone, thank you so much.

This is her first wedding, my 2nd wedding. I pretty much wasn't involved for my first wedding.

She's one of those "well, I never thought I would get married so I never imagined what my wedding would be like" girls.

She's a tough one to read. It seems like all my suggestions are being met with frowns. lol.

vsound · 04-19-2010, 10:51 AM

I'm currently planning a long distance wedding with my fiancee.

We're planning on getting married at the Gaylord Opryland in Nashville. She's basically getting a wedding planner. All I have to do is show up and pick out the suits for the men.

And I'm okay with that.

derklug · 04-19-2010, 11:09 AM

I picked up the tux I was told to get and showed up at the church when I was told. That was as much input as the wife desired, and more than I really thought nessicary.

trashauler · 04-19-2010, 12:25 PM

My wife and mother in law planned it all. The only thing I was in charge of was the bar options. She did a wonderful job to!

dmiller66 · 04-19-2010, 12:28 PM

haha planning a wedding is def a chick thing. In fact weddings are a chick thing too. I have no interest in either. I mean, isnt it a law that when you get married you trade in your life for a minivan? Because that seems to be the way it happens.

franknbeans · 04-19-2010, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by dmiller66

I mean, isnt it a law that when you get married you trade in your life for a minivan? Because that seems to be the way it happens.

Have to say no on that. . . I got my Camaro after we've been married for little over a year. (been dating 7 yrs before getting Married.)

SSmoothie · 04-19-2010, 09:06 PM

Do not spend a lot of money on a big event. Either a small cheap wedding at home then spend the money on a big honeymoon, or get married in Hawaii (that is what we did) and spend your honeymoon there. We did the cheap $600 (check on line there are several and they will help you through the process) on the beach wedding it was cool. Invite everyone to go and have a good time. A wedding is for you guys not everyone else.

04-19-2010, 02:34 AM	#1
monstertodd Drives: 2010 Cyber Grey Metallic 2SS/RS M6 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tega Cay, South Carolina Posts: 4,032 View My Garage	MALES: How involved were you with planning your wedding? Ladies, it's ok to comment My girlfriend and I are arguing right now because we can't figure out what kind of wedding we want. It's really frustrating because she keeps saying that I don't care, or she doesn't want to plan this by her self. She keeps saying she wants a special wedding, but doesn't have any ideas about what that is. She's the first woman i've ever encountered that didn't know exactly how she wanted her wedding to be. I keep suggesting, "well lets do it on the beach" or "lets go to vegas" or "lets just go see the JP". Am I not being involved enough? I don't know how to plan a wedding! I am not religious, and am not into conventional weddings, and neither is she. It's hard to plan a wedding from Afghanistan! How involved were you in the day to day planning of your wedding? Any tips or ideas for planning a wedding? I've been married before, but I was overseas when all the planning was going on, and really didn't have any say in how things were (well only that I was going to wear my uniform). Help me Camaro5, you're my only hope......

04-19-2010, 07:36 AM	#2
Dreamer2430 I need to win the Lotto Drives: 2010 IBM 1SS LS3 Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Ely, NV Posts: 146	I know exactly where you're coming from. I was in Africa (Dem. Republic of Congo) for 3 months and when I got back she told me everything was taken care of. Well "everything" was actually just the location. Well, from what I hear that's the hard part. I looked up all the small stuff (DJs, Flower people, ect. . .) on the internet. I think that the net is going to be really helpful with your distance. Find out what small stuff needs to get planned, look it up on the net and send her info and ask which companies she is willing to meet with. My fiance was ready to start pulling her hair out over all these small details. Planning out the just the DJ really earned me some browie points and all I did was gather info and see which companies she liked best. __________________ "Drive it like you stole it!"

04-19-2010, 08:14 AM	#3
Sir Nuke Master of All Things Drives: '20 Corvette Stingray Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Southeast of Houston, Texas Posts: 22,323 View My Garage	well WE got married in Vegas.......we love going there anyway, so that part was a no brainer for us....but the WHERE was my choice. I did a lot of research on all the chappels and the packages available. We got married at the Excaliber they had a BEAUTIFUL chappel. and OUT THE DOOR was only about $800. Here is a picture of their Chappel. __________________

04-19-2010, 08:26 AM	#4
springerpete Orange GM freak Drives: 2004 3500HD Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ponca City, OK Posts: 784 View My Garage	We had a small town wedding. I picked out what my groomsmen wore. It had a western theme. All of my groomsmen wore long wool frock style coats like the ones in Tombstone with the gambler's style ribbon tie. Wedding are a lot of work for just 20 minutes of formality. Remember that day is for her. The funny thing now is that my wife and many of her friends say if they had to do it over again that they would run off. (RUNN OFT) It's too much stress for just one day. __________________ "My hair's turnin' White, my neck is still Red and my collar is still Blue"

04-19-2010, 08:51 AM	#6
franknbeans Whipped Drives: 2010 CAMARO Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Pittsburgh-ish - PA Posts: 4,216 View My Garage	Lets see if I can help you out some. . . I'm a professional Wedding DJ in the Pittsburgh area. . . I do about 40 weddings a year and only see the involvement of the groom in about 5-8 weddings. I was very involved planning my wedding. . . I see weddings every weekend and knew what I wanted. . . But this isn't the case in most weddings. What I recommend is first decide on a budget for your wedding. . . This will lead into what you can do. . . Most my couples are either Dr. or Lawyers and spend roughly 50-65K per wedding. (crazy i know) IMO these two things you can NOT skimp on: First, Great Wedding Photographer - In the Pittsburgh area photographers run from 1k up to 5-6k. . . I would do some researching but would look around the $3500 price range for your photographer. The photos are the only thing you will have 20, 50 years down the road. Second, is a well known and GREAT wedding DJ. . .Prices very A LOT. . . but the industry average is around 1000-1200. I would look in the $1500- 2k range. The DJ can ruin any event . . . bad music, bad mic skills, bad organization, bad flow of the night. . . I've seen my share of horrible wedding DJ's. Drop me your email address via PM and I'll send out some info that you can share with your fiancée. __________________ Car of the week 7/7/14

04-19-2010, 08:41 AM	#5
ron10 Drives: 2010 2SS IOM L99 Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: LOUISVILLE,KY.. Posts: 7,545	get married at a justice of the piece.spend the money it would cost for a big wedding on your car.

04-19-2010, 09:59 AM	#7
Stingr69 '69 Owned Since '79 Drives: '69 Z/28 LeMans Blue w/White Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: LR AR Posts: 1,847 View My Garage	I picked the girl. That's about it. Not really - My wife has been down the isle before but it was my first so I got a lot more involved. She wanted it that way and it fits our personalities well. This is what we planned: My Stepfather has been my pastor for most of my life and my cousin is also a pastor so that part was easy - we had two pastors officiating. What else could we do? My Mother's side of the family belongs to a very old, super tiny, country church. - Easy choice and romantic. We had the reception at a VERY, VERY, GAUDY Italian place with amazing food. They know how to put on a reception and everybody loved it. It cost more to do it at a good place but if the guest list is short enough, it will work. We were married in Buffalo which is close to Niagara Falls so we started the honeymoon by driving up to the falls and all it cost was gas. We flew to San Francisco for 2 days where we spent time at my Dad's place and did the Fisherman's warf thing (waiting for our flight to Hawaii). My Dad gave us a week at a timeshare in Maui for a wedding gift so that was part 3. Some of that was costly but a large part of it was not. You can do a lot with a little if you plan carefully and take advantage of opportunity where you can find it. Advice - If this is your first wedding, have some fun, spend some money and enjoy the day no matter what happes. Oh, and be sure to pack some clothes for the day after. Some people forget to do that and have to wear thier tux again the next day. Not that it ever happened to me or anything. Eloping is GREAT way to do it if you want romantic and do not have the cash for a big party. Don't tell anyone until after it is over so nobody feels left out. Think of all the stories you will be able to tell. Fun! Hope it all works out great for you! -Mark.

04-19-2010, 10:34 AM	#8
monstertodd Drives: 2010 Cyber Grey Metallic 2SS/RS M6 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tega Cay, South Carolina Posts: 4,032 View My Garage	Wow! Great advice everyone, thank you so much. This is her first wedding, my 2nd wedding. I pretty much wasn't involved for my first wedding. She's one of those "well, I never thought I would get married so I never imagined what my wedding would be like" girls. She's a tough one to read. It seems like all my suggestions are being met with frowns. lol.

04-19-2010, 10:51 AM	#9
vsound Drives: 2LT RS Camaro: RY w/ Black Stripes Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: USA Posts: 148	I'm currently planning a long distance wedding with my fiancee. We're planning on getting married at the Gaylord Opryland in Nashville. She's basically getting a wedding planner. All I have to do is show up and pick out the suits for the men. And I'm okay with that.

04-19-2010, 11:09 AM	#10
derklug Drives: 12 Boss 302 Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Grand Rapids, Mi Posts: 1,369	I picked up the tux I was told to get and showed up at the church when I was told. That was as much input as the wife desired, and more than I really thought nessicary. __________________ The biggest mistakes in life come when you know exactly what you are doing.

04-19-2010, 12:25 PM	#11
trashauler Drives: 2010 ABM 2SS RS 2008 Trailblazer Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Chicagoish Illinois Posts: 186	My wife and mother in law planned it all. The only thing I was in charge of was the bar options. She did a wonderful job to! __________________

04-19-2010, 12:28 PM	#12
dmiller66 Tampa Gulf Coast Family Drives: '13 2SS/RS, Blue Ray Metallic, Auto Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Plantation, FL Posts: 227	haha planning a wedding is def a chick thing. In fact weddings are a chick thing too. I have no interest in either. I mean, isnt it a law that when you get married you trade in your life for a minivan? Because that seems to be the way it happens.

04-19-2010, 09:06 PM	#14
SSmoothie Drives: 2010 Camaro 2SS/RS 6SP Blk/Blk Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: WA Posts: 920 View My Garage	Do not spend a lot of money on a big event. Either a small cheap wedding at home then spend the money on a big honeymoon, or get married in Hawaii (that is what we did) and spend your honeymoon there. We did the cheap $600 (check on line there are several and they will help you through the process) on the beach wedding it was cool. Invite everyone to go and have a good time. A wedding is for you guys not everyone else.