05-03-2011, 12:47 PM | #29 |
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I did not read all the responses to this. However being a school administrator I see this some. Granted I am in an elementary setting. I look at the kids past history. If it is a one time thing I keep the knife and let the parents know they will not get it back. I then at the end of the year sell it and all funds go into the office account for items to use for school rewards.
If he is a repeat offender of things then they get punished to the fullest. If it means a year out then so be it we have to have safe schools and a safe haven for all. If you want to scare him, take him to a prison for a tour. Yes they have them and yes they are affective.
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I don't think the spanking he got last night had any impact on him, except maybe a bruise on his butt cheek, that's why I was against that form of punishment. He doesn't seem to care about being "grounded" - he's perfectly content watching paint dry. Physical labor? Well, I've got a heck of a lot of yard work to be done, but he's in decent shape for a 12 year old, he won't care... I've got to convince my husband and his ex wife of a really good way to make the kid CARE about what he's done... Carrying a weapon to school is NOT OK. But then, it's really up to them, I've got no REAL impact.
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05-03-2011, 12:54 PM | #31 |
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Hired Gun, thanks for a school admin perspective! My stepson is in 6th grade, which is still elementary school here. I think part of why the bus driver didn't just turn him in is because he's usually a pretty good kid. But, his grades have been slipping, his attitude has gone downhill, and now this. It's spiralling down quickly. I think the district has a zero tolerance policy, so if the school does get involved, it's first strike you're out... I don't know - I suggested having him confess to the principal, and begging for detention for the rest of the year, that idea was shot down...
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05-03-2011, 12:56 PM | #32 | |
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I duuno, is like F-you from a kid and we all know it. The only thing that changes behavior is pain, not always physical but pain none the less. Get into HIS value system whatever that is. He values something, he like something, he wants something and take it away until he complies. |
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Good luck to you and don't give up on him, he will get past what ever is bugging him with your LOVE and UNDERSTANDING.
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OK this may sound odd, now that you are members of the club, start bringing him around. I mean Really around most so when My daughter is around. they are the same age & I can tell you that she will do one of two things when he trys this stuff with her, Either kick his a$$ (she is Martial arts trained) or ignore him. & with my son around to help, he can show your son how to impress the girls with out getting in to trouble. lol. I know my son has his problems but one of his good qualities is that hes a leader & he loves to teach other people. Also getting him around people who like some of our members will treat him as an equal may help as well. I have never had a step child, but I was once one.(lets not go into that one lol) try being a mother to him when hes around. you may not be able to spank the kids butt, but you can give him what for. I dont care what the courts say about step parents, But if you have a Firm hand on things & use that hand, then maybe not now but when he grows up, he would thank you for it.
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Try this one with him, set in front of him, you in a chair and him in a chair facing each other. Let him know that you will set there looking at eachother for as long as it takes until he tells you exactly what is bothering him. DO NOT CRITISIZE any thing he may say. Just ask this question over and over in a calm voice until he is ready to tell you what is bugging him, "I want to help you and I will listen, what is really bugging you?" I am a foster parent and this helps on some kids, it may take 1/2 hour to really get him to trust you are willing to listen to him but once he opens up to the truth (if he will) both of you will get along better and have a better grasp on how each other feels.
Good luck with him, he is at an age where he wants to become his own person!!
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This is what you do. Take everything he owns and loves out of his room. Even his clothes. Go buy some generic crappy clothes and shoes and make him wear that to school for a month as punishment. If he's at all concerned about being cool, this will be a huge punishment to him.
Spanking does no good at an older age and it just makes the kid angrier. They'll feel "punished" if they lose all their stuff. Trust me, had it happen to me once in 5th grade, I behaved for a whole year, I swear! And from then on just the threat of losing my things made me behave! If you give him an allowance, cut it to zero or if he needs some to buy lunch give him much less than normal.
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I think that everyone needs to remember that he is only in the 6th grade. He's a child. Military school for taking a knife to school? Seriously? Kids do crap like this all of the time, it's just that it's not announced to the world unless admin or other parents find out. You just need to find out the real reason for him doing it. How about some Counseling sessions along with some after school activities? Maybe: he isn't getting enough interaction with his dad, he's being bullied, he's dealing with his sexual orientation. I'm not saying it's one of those or all of them, but there's a reason behind his rebelliousness. Do him and you (parents) a favor by taking him to a psychiatrist or something. Going to a psychiatrist is nothing out of the ordinary, in fact - more people need to do it.
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Thank you all sooooooooo much for your input on this. It gives us a lot to think about, and a lot of options to try. I'll share all of your suggestions with my husband when he gets home today.
In the short time I've been a member of C5, I feel like you've all become my extended family. You all have such great advice, on more than just cars! Thank you!!!
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