hey you guys i need help with girl problem plz plz plz

[thejoker1232]

before i get started i will touch on the lows
*she has kids
*she is 25 i am 20

Highs
* she is nice, funny, and smart
* she is beautiful
* we can talk about anything

i have this girl in my class she is smart, funny and very beautiful. I met her a couple of months ago and she was very cool i took her to concert that my friend wanted me to invite her too. i and did she said yes, but turns out the reason was because she didn't want to go alone, and said she really doesn't have that many friends. So She and I went to the concert and she got a little drunk. the band played like a heavy song but had a dance style breakdown and she was dancing with other girls and kissing them and stuff i was like oh hell yes and my friend got pissed but he still went after her. i found out that he took her home and i was kind of PO'd i said f*** that noise and left, she came up to me at school on monday and said that she is sorry for what happened and i was like ok wtfever. After that she started hanging and talking to my friend. On sunday of this past week she added me on facebook and gave me her number and said i should call her sometime, i was like o...k i called her and later that night we went to a carnival and she explained to me that she was really sorry for what happened and that she hasn't gone out in a long time and that she drank so she wouldn't be as nervous. She said the reason she wasn't talking to me was because when she gave me a hug and said sorry that day i backed up and acted like i didn't want anything to do with her. and i told her i didn't mean to be like that and i told her the situation and the reason i did it. we talked and rode rides and had fun she put her head on my shoulder and was close to me the whole time it was amazing, but when we first went in the carnival guy over by the games you play to get gifts for others. called me over and was like is this your girl. I didn't know what to say so i said my friend i don't know if i made the right move but like i said she was close the rest of the night like she wanted to be more. When she left she told me she had fun and that she would like for me to call her sometime she said it didn't really matter when and if she saw that i called she would call me back then she gave me a hug and left because she had to put her kids to bed. I am so happy yet so confused.

i don't know if i should call her tonight/ tommorrow
how to tell if she likes me as a friend or more
what to do next
i've never had a gf, and i really don't want to mess this up if we do have anything going she broke up with her boyfriend a couple months ago thats the reason it's hard but idk man it's really jogging my brain can you guys give me some clarification

[Apex Paul]

[Fishdadddy]

DUMP THAT HO

[BlackSS831]

I've dated many older woman with kids and it never works out. There are plenty of hot girls with no kids or drama that you can hook up with!

[PB3]

Originally Posted by Fishdadddy

DUMP THAT HO

...classic

[lee]

dont waste your time with that

[UCI CamaroFan]

ahhhhhh, wall of text!

seriously, you're 20. you don't want to get involved with somebody who has kids.

[csjcsj]

get ya sum then go. HA HA

[Orange5thGen]

You are in school.... WTheck get with another girl.......... with no kids, you are not ready for that.

[Fishdadddy]

Look, She might be cool. BUT she is 25 with at least 2 kids and no guy?? HMMMMM? She's gonna mess you up Bro.

You're the one that came here asking? RUUUUUUUUNNN You are only 20 go get Jiggy with as many as you can while you can Plenty of time to hook up and have your own kids.

[Fishdadddy]

How's that go? Don't run down. Walk down.

[PB3]

What about: Take it easy and if she's easy take it home...eh?

[tjbusa]

Love knows no boundries.... but there are alot of fish in the ocean

[Atti2de]

Well since you mentioned her kids as a low you really already answered your own question.

[RocketCutlass]

Leave her alone... My ex had a kid, I'm not gonna go through the reasons and tell you why, just trust me... Find one closer to your age and that hasn't pushed one out her baby schute.

[sugar'n'spice]

Take it from me, a married woman with 2 kids and 19 years of marriage.

YOU are a 20 yr old, live as one!

Plenty of other girls around!

You are too way too young to commit.

Just have fun and live your young life!!

[2000v6]

I would never even think about about doing/dating a young mom with kids, if she doesn't spend time with the kids because she's spending time with you then there is something wrong with her priorities and she's not a good mom. If she doesn't spend time you because she has to spend time with the kids then you're screwed. Honestly, just be a good friend and I mean seriously coming from one young guy to another, you don't want to become involved with the kids because their father will have a problem with you because quite simply he's the father and you're just some guy and you really don't want to become a father it's way to early, us guys in the twenties whether you want to admit it or not we're still "kids", we still have a lot of growing up to do.

[2000v6]

Here's the deal, straight up and I'm not gonna lie - go find another girl to date, this one get into the friend zone. Obviously you won't get out of the friend zone but what's wrong with being someone's friend?

Also what's going on that makes you want to think that you need to date a girl with kids.

Now if you were to hookup with a mother/daughter combo, in which the mother is single and is in the late 30s early 40s and the daughter is in the early 20s, then you can come back and we can talk. It is possible, I did this until I got bored

[johndawg]

backpack across Europe and then hit Asia & Australia. There's no reason to tie yourself down @ 20.

[2000v6]

Look, here's what you gotta do at 20 and in the 20s, take as many girls to bed as possible. Also how do I put this without a mod trying to get rid of my account... the baby chute isn't fresh and clean anymore.

[ron10]

everyone is giving you good advise.use your head.believe me,been there done that.this is not a situation you need to get involved in.

[2000v6]

Also, if she's 25, has kids and no man around...guess what? SLUT

[2000v6]

Also like I said once and I'll say it again

mom in her 30s/40s, daughter in her 20s combo

[2000v6]

Hold on... now that I read your summary, I've got two questions? Are these kids real? Have you personally seen them?

The reason why I'm asking is that they way you put it "oh she's just my friend", she could have just come up with an excuse and said yeh I gotta go put the kids to bed. Here's what you do, get an invite to her home and make sure that these kids exist, so they can't be at grandma's, grandpa's, aunt's, uncle's etc.

MAKE SURE THESE KIDS EXIST if they do, then run... run... run... run.... run some more... some more... some more... keep running until your legs give out from a relationship

[2000v6]

I actually have a few gfs right now, believe me when I say that I know what I'm talking about, my first was when I was 13

and there was only 1 girl that I ever had a crush on and I was 5