Thx for responding I'm at work right now and this has been gnawing at me bad. Car is all ripped apart on jacks in garage :(
The relay I have that has the battery terminal connections on it replaces the 2 short wires that plug into the ballast and have the thin spade connectors on them.
So the relay I have plugged into each ballast along with the hid bulbs connections made. The trigger wire came spliced into relay with normal square spade connectors so I need to change those to the thin ones and plug them into the h9 two prong eagle eyes connector inside the light housing on the driver side only. Then plug both ext ee plugs to factory plugs(realizing only one is needed).Correct?
So the relay is to provide direct battery power. The trigger wires are for activating the internal hi/low shield to raise/lwr and the one ee ext connector to factory plug is to get the command from switches in car to lights?
I just want to be sure I do this correct as I have bad luck with electrical things

Also I was confused after seeing that erk had his trigger wires in the ext ee connector and not the internal h9 one nor the factory plugs connected to the ext ee connector :(
Thankyou for being patient and helping me!