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Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom
Ugh - not so happy this Monday.... So tired... Yesterday was a veeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyyy long day. Up at o'dark thirty to head to the car show after being up late. As soon as we get to the show, my husband gets a call from his dad saying mom-in-law has taken a turn for the worse... We stayed at the show a while, but did leave a little early and went to visit mom-in-law. She's in a very nice hospice house now - her room is actually a suite, with a separate room for my father-in-law so he can get some sleep - with amazing around the clock nursing staff. They finally got her pain under control, but she's started having seizures. The GREAT thing about yesterday? A colleague of my mom-in-law went to some mucky-mucks at the University of Washington, and talked them into giving mom-in-law her PhD (she had been working on her thesis) - having that velvet cowl placed around her neck and hearing "doctor" before her name brought the biggest smile to her face. She had been working so hard for that.
My stepson opted not to come with us, because he wants to remember grandma "the way she was" - this was a very good choice..... she didn't look good at all...
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I've been there as an 18 yr old with my grandmother. We were both in the hospital and I went to see her. She was in horrible shape and I remember it to this day 29 years later. I could not go to the funeral. This has been a tough year. You have my deepest sympathies. It sounds like she got to enjoy a good moment though and that is important, something to hang on to. There are time when thats the only thing that keeps you going...( I talked to my dad the night before he passed and we shared a few laughs. I keep that moment and what he had said about being proud of my son and being proud of me for raising such a good family/kids.) Does it hurt still? Yes of course it does. You love these people.... I wish your husband the best, I know how he must feel..its not an easy thing to go through... you think as we get older it would be easier but its not the case.. I have days where I just don't understand and really cant do anything per the depression. My wife and I have lost both dads this year and a couple of friends. The older we get the more we are tested it seems.. If there is anything I can do, let me know.