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Old 07-12-2009, 04:23 AM   #31
SummoneR
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Your a very admirable young man!! a rarity in today's world unfortunately.
I can't say telling her what you did for her would do anyone any good, but perhaps her mother will feel for you and decide to tell her daughter afterall, because if you tell her, you throw the reason you did it out the window, and it becomes a selfish reason, you only did it because you wanted her to like you more. That does not sound like why you did it, therefore telling her what you did serves no purpose. Others may think well she will have to live with it etc... but why? you obviously did not want her to suffer in any way so why now? because she hurt you?. Anyway that's MHO.

I feel your pain, I am 32 and have had some pretty bad headache in my life, but I look back, and I see how my faith in God, and the support of my family and friends have brought me through it all. I am a better person for it. The first one is always the hardest... so you think, until it happens again, and usually it's worse... why? because of what you learned from the first time, you have a better understanding of love, which allows you to love even deeper the next time. The more you open yourself up the more you can be hurt, the trick is to muscle through the hurt, but hopefully find one that will no longer hurt you, and that my friend will have made all the pain and heartache that came before all but disappear (you will never forget, but always forgive).If not, then always be happy in yourself, and be grateful for what you have and not focus on what you don't. At times I feel like I have wasted so much time in my life on lost relationships, and since the last one (which is a whole other story) I have decided it won't do me any good to hang on to regrets, but to do everything possible now, to not add to those regrets.

You sound as if you have a good head on your shoulders! Keep it that way!
Too, I truly believe nice guys may finish last... but good things come to those who wait... I know it's a cliche but it's true...

With regards to your car. You need to establish some credit, get a checking and savings account, which I am sure you have. Get a credit card, don't max it out, just buy gas on it, and pay it all but off at the end of the month (there are different ideas about whether you should pay it off monthly or not... but I wont go there) so save some money and build your credit enough to get a small loan on your Camaro to add to your savings (as a down) a car loan is a great way to build stronger credit, once you get the small loan paid off, your credit should be solid enough to get yourself a house when you graduate and have a nice job to pay for it. Just don't do what I did and get 18 cards with limits between 5-12k... max them out... blah blah long long story... I did the first part and had a score in the mid to high 700's before they changed the max score. I had that at 25... I was always told that was high for my age, which was a testament to how I handled my credit, but then I was like oh I have great credit let me charge this then this and that... anyway I digress. Just don't do that. LOL

Chin up and rock on!! enjoy college!!
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