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Originally Posted by camaro noob
I've never really considered the militarty before. As of now, I have a career plan. And I'll be working as a phlebotomist to help get me through my last two years of college. If I was lost on a career path as well and hurting for money, then I would concider the military.
She says her mom knows and is ok with it. Her mom used to love and trust me so much, but now even she has asked me to not attempt to contact her daughter again. The thing is that her mom is VERY religious. Christian family. I'm East Indian. This new guy claims he is Christian and is able to put on a good show in front of her mom. So her mom prefers him over me for her daughter. Her dad walked out at a very young age. So a lot of people are telling me that she's looking for a father figure now in her life, and is going around the wrong way to get that.
I don't want you all to hate her. Please believe me, I really did love her for a good reason, not just her pretty face. I wish I could help her right now but I don't know what to do. I have my felt heart break before, but never like this. This is something else.
I do balme myself as well. She would work so hard to try and immerse herself into my culture. My grandma would teach her how to cook Indian food, she would go to cultural events with us, we would try to teach her how to speak Punjabi, she would go out on her own and get Sikh culture books and read them...you get the idea. But part of being East Indian means that you're just naturally shy about expressing emotions. Especially about love. Obviously I don't feel that way now. Her leaving me was one hell of a wake up call. It just wasn't soon enough for her. I was too afraid for too long to fully express just how I felt, and just how important she really was to me.
And there were differences that she didn't like. She likes to party. I don't. She likes to drink. I don't. She's told me before that when she drinks she gets "handsy" and "flirty" so I REALLY didn't want her drinking if I wasn't there. I told her she could still go but to drink moderately and if she wanted to get wasted I wouldn't mind going along and being her DD. But I did still wanted her to stop drinking. And she did for about 9 months. But lately I don't know what has happened. So confused.
I did look into the "Cash for Clunkers" thing. My current car was rated at 34 MPG. I don't know what it's at exactly now, but it's still up there. So that won't work. It's cool though. I will work on building better credit and saving more. I want getting this car to be the best experience ever, so I'll wait till the time is right. Thank you all again for your support and kindness.
Sorry for any type-o's. I'm trying to write all this on my phone...not easy.
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No one said they hate her. We said we hate cheaters in general. It sounds like you need to stop contacting her, or even trying before you end up with a restraining order against you. You said some things were you fault and after you explained I can see how she may have tried to push herself away from you, but it's still not an excuse to cheat. Bottom line, you need to delete her number, get rid of the stuff that reminds you of her, or that she gave you and move on. Its over. No gentle way to really say it, but like I said, ITS OVER between you and her.