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Originally Posted by brandotron
Hey Scott, you sound like a great guy from your other posts, and I say this with respect, but allow me to play devil's advocate (haha, no pun intended).
Be veeerrry careful in forcing her to go to church. I don't say this to undermine your religion, but if she's not into church, she won't pay attention there. She'll sit and stew and think about how you're making her be there and much she hates it. Instead of enlightening her, it would cause a greater divide. I say this from experience, I was a hellion as a teenager back in the day (drinking and smoking) and I needed a good slap in the face 
Good luck in this situation bro. Sounds like she has some good guidance in you and your wife, she just needs to open her %&^*& ears. |
+1
I agree about your opinion on going to church...we always went as kids and my kids always went too...once they were confirmed, I left it up to them...my younger son works weekends now while going to college, so he hasn't gone in a few yrs...
I think to force anyone to go to church once your kids get to the teenage yrs, creates more resentment and hostility than it helps, IMHO...
I still encourage my kids to go, when THEY want to go...my older son actually attended church on his own accord while away at college...now that he's home, he's slacked off, but I just don't bug him about it...
My Dad once dragged me out of bed to go to church when I was a teen, and I hated him for it at the time...it caused a lot of resentment
Now that I'm older and hopefully, wiser, I realize he was doing his best, even if it didn't seem like it at the time...he just didn't know any better and I forgave my parents for anything strict or whatever I didn't like them doing when I was a kid once I had my OWN kids...then I just knew that, right or wrong, they loved me and were trying their very best to do what was right for me and I finally realized that they were just regular human beings and not perfect and that having kids comes with NO instruction manual, so I "get it" now...
Both my parents are now gone
and I am glad that once I became an adult no longer living under their roof, that we had a very close and "most of the time", LOL...loving relationship, until the day they each died...
I have no regrets, thank God...
Good luck to everyone of us trying to raise decent, kind, thoughtful human beings in today's crazy world...it is not easy...even with our best efforts and best intentions, things can still go wrong.......
Just
LOVE
them the best way we can, and hopefully, the rest will work out for the best...
