Something needs to be done about bullying in schools

[CombatVet0311]

oh and please for the love of God, stop buying your kids cars, any kid with good character will find valuable life lessons in the pursuit of buying their first auto.

[motorhead]

Originally Posted by CombatVet0311

I don't want to sound cold or insensitive but this generation of kids are soft.

If you are coddling your children and trying to protect them from reality, you're the problem because you're not allowing you're child to grow and find the courage within his/herself to resolve conflict and assimilate into their role and position in society.

the best way to prevent bullying is to raise your kid with character, stop you're childs tendancy for whining and crying at an early age, encourage them to play sports early as this will eventually lead to a competitive personality and will release more testosterone in developing boys ,anger is a great motivator so encourage an attitude that allows for them to use adverse situations as a driving force to will their way to a solution, stop feeding your kids soy based foods and Mcdonalds.

try to make your kids realise that life is much harder than unsavory myspace comments, prepare your kids for life, don't do them the disservice of making life too easy because they will not know how to combat stressful situations when life gets complicated, stop making your kids soft

Damn! you sound just like my old man. (almost 40 years in the army, now retired)

[CombatVet0311]

maybe I'm wise beyond my years

[scrapn4me]

when my daughter was in 2nd grade she had problems with a girl picking on her all the time. we went to the teacher numerous times about it and they always told us it wasnt a problem and since no teacher saw it that it didnt really happen. We told the teacher that at some point my daughter would haveenough and would probably hit the girl and they shouldnt be surprised when she does it. it wasnt to long before we got a call telling us our daughter had slapeed the taste out of that little girls mouth and that we needed to come in. all we could do was tell them we told you so.

[Masta T]

what happened to the if you get outta of hand your arse is grass rule? the parents of the bullies should be arrested for not making them stop. I also most bullies die because the victim just cant take no more punishment and they retaliate.

[nardox]

I got into a fight when I was in high school a few years ago, the other guy started it and I probably beat him a little too hard.

The principle wanted to send me to another 'special' school(forgot the term they used, but it's basically a school for all the trouble kids who got into drug issues, etc) AFTER she learned what happened from I and another student. She said that violence will not be tolerated regardless of the situation, I asked her then should I just let him hit me without defending myself and she didn't know what to say. Then my dad came in and told the principle that if she insist to keep her decision on sending me to the special school he will hire a lawyer and escalate this to the school district etc. At the end I ended up with a one day OSS.

Ever since I was a little kid I was told if I have to defend myself, do whatever that's necessary and worry about everything else later.

[rowerybo]

I was told at an early age, don't you ever start anything but if someone starts with you, you better finish it. 8th grade had someone harassing me. Shoved him into the wall so hard it left a mark. He never did bother me again. The teacher and principal tried to suspended me for violence but my parents came in and said, you're NOT suspending our child for self defense. It's time the parents start stepping in to their child's lives and punishing them. It is perfectly OK to smack a child on the butt with an open palm.

[Brokinarrow]

Originally Posted by CombatVet0311

I don't want to sound cold or insensitive but this generation of kids are soft.

If you are coddling your children and trying to protect them from reality, you're the problem because you're not allowing your child to grow and find the courage within his/herself to resolve conflict and assimilate into their role and position in society.

the best way to prevent bullying is to raise your kid with character, stop you're childs tendancy for whining and crying at an early age, encourage them to play sports early as this will eventually lead to a competitive personality and will release more testosterone in developing boys ,anger is a great motivator so encourage an attitude that allows for them to use adverse situations as a driving force to will their way to a solution, stop feeding your kids soy based foods and Mcdonalds.

try to make your kids realise that life is much harder than unsavory myspace comments, prepare your kids for life, don't do them the disservice of making life too easy because they will not know how to combat stressful situations when life gets complicated, stop making your kids soft

oorah

[Moriartii]

@Combatvet
OMG I bout fell outta my chair with your post!!! Soy based foods and Mcdonalds.

LOL

Well said tho.
Cheers
K

[Z28RockStar]

Originally Posted by CombatVet0311

I don't want to sound cold or insensitive but this generation of kids are soft.

If you are coddling your children and trying to protect them from reality, you're the problem because you're not allowing your child to grow and find the courage within his/herself to resolve conflict and assimilate into their role and position in society.

the best way to prevent bullying is to raise your kid with character, stop you're childs tendancy for whining and crying at an early age, encourage them to play sports early as this will eventually lead to a competitive personality and will release more testosterone in developing boys ,anger is a great motivator so encourage an attitude that allows for them to use adverse situations as a driving force to will their way to a solution, stop feeding your kids soy based foods and Mcdonalds.

try to make your kids realise that life is much harder than unsavory myspace comments, prepare your kids for life, don't do them the disservice of making life too easy because they will not know how to combat stressful situations when life gets complicated, stop making your kids soft

Originally Posted by CombatVet0311

oh and please for the love of God, stop buying your kids cars, any kid with good character will find valuable life lessons in the pursuit of buying their first auto.

YAR! HUUURRAAAAHHHH!!! YOU FKN NAILED IT!

I'm suing McDs.

In all seriousness though, one combat vet to another, . . I couldn't agree with you MORE! YEAH! Thank you for your articulation and candor sir.

[DayDreamer]

I was picked on and bullied growing up; pretty much my entire life. I was a nerd, loved video games, computers, talked about/watched anime and never played sports past Jr. High(Middle School). I just grew a thick skin...I didn't have parents that supported me when I got home, I was moved out at 16 and had a job since I was 15. I think people are just becoming "super sensitive" to what others think and the way others percieve them. I do believe that kids should be more respectful, but it isn't something you should expect. Kids should have the understanding that you will be picked on or made fun of at some point in your life. It surprises me to this day when I get on a video game and hear how offended a person is getting playing on the internet...people shouldn't have to expect that there will always be mean/abusive people(kids and adults) every where but it is just the way things are and there is no way to make it stop. "Stick and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me" is what my grandmother taught me as a child, it isn't completely true, but death should never be the option from the words of another.

[Synerbee]

All I say is fight back. A guy was being a jerk to me and teachers don't do anything until I do something. So I went tackle him through him into a wall face first. 2 weeks of detention and no more problem

[rudack]

Thant’s horrible and this is a trend that needs to be stopped. Bulling has been around since mankind could figure out what a social group is. Even primitive animals are in some way guilty of bullying, in one way or another. Why they are starting to take their lives is beyond me.
Before I hit my growth spurt I was picked on, made fun of, yada yada. So I bucked up started training in Kempo and became a Black Belt. Thanks to my brother. What it thought me was not to fight but be mindful of yourself. Forget the actions of others and have confidence from within. It also taught me to confront a problem head on and resolve an issue without confrontation, but if I had to throw down. so be it. I honestly didn’t give a flying F what others said or did but one day Junior year in HS after I filled out, some hot shot tried to throw me into a locker. His mistake… No one came near me again after that. Conflict resolution is part of life, something is wrong here and I don’t think it’s the child.

[RAdams]

Originally Posted by futrocpd

Personally I feel if teachers were allowed to have more authority like they used to have a lot of this crap would not happen.

Yep, I found this comment in a local story about a bullying incident:

"I am an OKCPS mid school teacher. Today in a staff meeting the teachers were informed by our principal that we can not restrain students or break up fights. Our principal doesnt necessarily agree he was just informing us of what we had to do.

Take this scenario: a strong, aggressive bully attacks an innocent weaker student. The innocent student tries to defend himself but to no avail. Teachers can not save him. We can not even walk between them to keep one away from the other. That is considered restraining."