Stolen and Wrecked: You will not believe this story!

[Ghost Rider]

Originally Posted by LadiesMan217

Hmm...while I completely feel for you man... I have a few questions prior to giving my thoughts.

1. You said that you trusted this friend with your car...does that mean that you gave your friend permission to drive it while you were overseas? (Not his sister...just him).

2. If so, doesn't that mean, by him giving permission to his sister, that you somehow did give her permission because you put the decision making into the hands of this friend?

I don't know how this works...but I think this could be brought up in court and give the insurance company some legs to stand on as far as not paying up.

This friend is obviously a close one...for you to leave your $35,000 possession's fate in his hands. Like stated above though...mistakes are made but people need to suffer consequences based on those mistakes...if not, it wasn't really a mistake, it just happened. The car being "stolen" is what I'm hung up on. She was told that she could drive the car...she didn't go behind anybody's back and take it.

Many mistakes happened...
1. You let this friend take care of your car.
2. He let his sister (without permission from you) drive the car.
3. She "played" with it and didn't have the proper training to "play" with it.

In a perfect world...she can come up with the money to repay you. At 18, you know she can't.

Have her familiy come up with the funds ASAP (no payment plan, no "we'll work it off", or anything like that. One time payment. If they can't do that, you gotta do what you gotta do, report it as stolen and let her deal with the consequences.

Even if you had given your friend permission, which you didn't, that would not equate to giving the sister permission. Your friend didn't even give her permission. She just took it. It was a stolen car. No question. No excuses.

[blkngldbabe]

Originally Posted by Genious

I feel kinda bad for the girl but not bad enough to take a potential $35,000 loss. More then anything I'm just thankful that I have a awesome bank and they took care of all this with minimal effort on my part.

Actually the worse part for me what that while I'm here I worked a deal with a one of the custom body shops here on the forum to start paying now for $10,000 dollars worth of mods I was going to have done to the car. The plan was to start paying now, drop the car off at the shop on my mid-tour leave and and have the car worked on and balance paid by the time I came back in july. It was going to be badass. I have to contact him and ask for a Refund of the money I had already put down, that shit was seriously embarrassing. I hate to back out of business arrangements that I have made

Can you still not get them done, once your new ride arrives? I'm sure the money won't go to waste. Congrats on reporting it.

[TommyTSquared]

This thread is going to add MANY people to the ignore list. So disappointing.

[LAW Camaro #3]

Good for you! Now you get the excitement of ordering another, but the long wait for delivery. Stay safe and thank you for your service!

[Ghost Rider]

Originally Posted by Genious

The girls parent don't have the money to flat out pay off the loan for the car and don't even intend to help her, but they want me to believe this girl they don't even trust under their roof is going to pay me back somehow. Not even going for that. I called the officer about 8am this morning and filed a formal report, by about 9am the girl because she was driving was in cuffs, and by 9:20 my Gmail inbox was 349 and emails richer, one from her father saying that I was a "soulless bastard" and 348 more from every offshore fly by night Viagra selling website you could think of, wonder who put my email on the mailing list. (Shout out to Google for awesome spam and junk mail filtering).

So daddy wouldn't lift a finger to help out to help his precious daughter but your a "souless bastard" for not just eating $35K when she stole your car. What nerve. You did the right thing.

[sad54189]

Originally Posted by Genious

I am however slightly sympathetic because I was young once, got into trouble and the second chance given to me is why I am not in jail. What do you guys think.

Man I hear you on that. I too was given a second chance if I joined the Military, so I did. I just got out in June after 8 years and 19 days active duty in the U.S. Navy. So I am also sympathetic to first time offenders, but I can honestly say my mistake didn't involve $35,000 and yours probably didn't either. I think you did the right thing by reporting the car stolen and she now has to face the consequences of her actions. Thank you for your service!

[Darth Detroit]

You need a new car
She needs a second chance or to make reparations.
Get a contract written up. Get it ALL in writing.
You local JAG will help and direct you as to who you need to talk to.
If she fails to make reparations, the contract you have is valid, even when you have to take it to the civil authorities, you initiated the contract through YOUR chain of command.
It becomes a legal binding contract in court if an agreement isnt fulfilled. This will be fair to you and to her for the mistake that she made. If she goes to jail, you dont get closure on it until her time is served- at the earliest.
Keep your emotions in check. But you have to document, document, document.
If she agrees to to the reparations, she make them to avoid jail. And her parents will eventually have to pay if she is on thier insurance. Its win win for you.

[2010camaro2SS]

I agree with LadiesMan217. However, if they can't come up with the funds right then and there... which shouldn't be difficult (they could get a loan if they cared about their baby girl as much as they say they do)... then definitely proceed with the stolen vehicle approach. You can't just take someone elses car out for a joyride, mess it up, then say oops, sorry...... that doesn't fly one bit with me, whoever the person is. If my mother got in my car and totaled it, I'd feel the same way. You work very hard for your money doing a job and you rewarded yourself. Now some stupid 18 year old chick took that away from you!

[acatlover13]

I agree with the majority of posts on the thread. DONT let her "pay it off" over time. It will never happen. If she can't get a loan to cover that amount, let her parents get a loan. If they can't get a loan either, then report the car as stolen or driven without permission, or whatever it takes to get it repaired/replaced by the insurance company. This should show that you tried to work with them to keep her out of legal trouble, but if she can't meet your terms, you have no other choice.

[clg_98ta]

Originally Posted by Darth Detroit

You need a new car
She needs a second chance or to make reparations.
Get a contract written up. Get it ALL in writing.
You local JAG will help and direct you as to who you need to talk to.
If she fails to make reparations, the contract you have is valid, even when you have to take it to the civil authorities, you initiated the contract through YOUR chain of command.
It becomes a legal binding contract in court if an agreement isnt fulfilled. This will be fair to you and to her for the mistake that she made. If she goes to jail, you dont get closure on it until her time is served- at the earliest.
Keep your emotions in check. But you have to document, document, document.
If she agrees to to the reparations, she make them to avoid jail. And her parents will eventually have to pay if she is on thier insurance. Its win win for you.

No, I think you did the right thing. You don't want to spend the rest of your life trying to collect on a repayment contract...

[TommyTSquared]

Originally Posted by acatlover13

I agree with the majority of posts on the thread. DONT let her "pay it off" over time. It will never happen. If she can't get a loan to cover that amount, let her parents get a loan. If they can't get a loan either, then report the car as stolen or driven without permission, or whatever it takes to get it repaired/replaced by the insurance company. This should show that you tried to work with them to keep her out of legal trouble, but if she can't meet your terms, you have no other choice.

This. Is. Funny.

[import_killa]

lol

Originally Posted by TommyTSquared

This thread is going to add MANY people to the ignore list. So disappointing.