Age Gap - And -When to draw the line.

[PQ]

Originally Posted by kdbolt70

16 is a very vulnerable age for a young woman, especially when influenced by a much older man. "Wise beyond her years" may certainly be true, but it does not make up for life experience in situations such as this. I'd say give it another couple yeas, at least till she gets out of HS.

Very good. I like this response so far.




BUUUUUUUUUTTTTTTT,

Are you Fing serious? I'd KILL a MFer for messing with my daughter at 25. I don't care if it was my daughter that was the persuer. TELL YOUR PERV FREIND TO SEEK HELP. How bout a little personal restraint. YES I've seen 'hotties' that turned out to be 16 but think about it. a few months ago she was FIFTEEN (15). A 16 year old can look 18, and have the bod (I just got the willies) of 21 but YOU CAN TELL!!!!!!!!

Did he meet her at recess? On the playground? Crap....... this is a joke right?

Ok. You got me...........

[Toyaholic]

Will they let you out of jail to drive your Camaro?

Just wait until she is 18 and your golfing career has hit it's peak.... then you will be alright.

[Apex Paul]

"The formula" for who is in your age range to date, as I have been taught to understand it, is 1/2 your age plus 7.

So, 1/2 of 25=12.5 + 7 = 19.5. That means she is 3.5 years too young to be dating the guy.

As a rule, I would also add in that the formula is 1/2 your age plus 7 EXCEPT when the law provides otherwise! Or as 5thGenCamaroChick's hubby says; 16 will get you 20.

Originally Posted by 5thGenCamaroChick

As my hubby says... 16 will get you 20.

Besides that, she might SEEM to be mature for her age, but in reality she's just practicing. Same concept as puppy love, basically. She can't actually be as mature as she seems until she experiences the things make us all grow up. Don't get me wrong, she might be more mature than her peers, but that's not saying a lot considering the maturity level of most 16 yr olds.

Lastly, you should ask your friend how he would feel if some guy was fooling around with his 16 yr old kid sister/neice/daughter. I bet he would see the situation differently.

I couldn't agree more. At 16 you are not near as "grown up" as you are at 25. To give you an idea of the difference in 16 and 25 think about this: At age 16 this girl *might* be able to get her driver's license depending on the state where she lives. At 25, she could possibly be the doctor treating your wounds in the emergency room at the hospital after you got a beat down from PQ when he finds out your 25 and dating his daughter!

So, to save you some time here is a chart to figure out if your sugar daddy is too old for you, or your trophy girlfriend is too young for you...


15 can date 14.5
16 can date 15
17 can date 15.5
18 can date 16
19 can date 16.5
20 can date 17
21 can date 17.5
22 can date 18
23 can date 18.5
24 can date 19
25 can date 19.5
26 can date 20
27 can date 20.5
28 can date 21
29 can date 21.5
30 can date 22
31 can date 22.5
32 can date 23
33 can date 23.5
34 can date 24
35 can date 24.5
36 can date 25
37 can date 25.5
38 can date 26
39 can date 26.5
40 can date 27
41 can date 27.5
42 can date 28
43 can date 28.5
44 can date 29
45 can date 29.5
46 can date 30
47 can date 30.5
48 can date 31
49 can date 31.5
50 can date 32

You notice that at the very young ages they are tightly spaced. this accounts for the maturity difference at those ages. As you age this maturity difference disappears.

[5thGenCamaroChick]

Originally Posted by Apex Paul

"The formula" for who is in your age range to date, as I have been taught to understand it, is 1/2 your age plus 7.

So, 1/2 of 25=12.5 + 7 = 19.5. That means she is 3.5 years too young to be dating the guy.

Good formula! Especially since I was exactly 19 1/2 when I began dating my then 25 yr-old hubby. We just celebrated 18 yrs together (15 married). I was more mature than most 19 yr olds, but I was still just a kid really. Good thing my hubby has a lot of patience lol.

[Bbrock25]

Same thing happend w/ a friend of mine....day she turned 18, was the day her and her old teacher were official...he's 35, she's now 20.

[Xmicro_SS]

The formula is pretty funny. Listen there is no formula, it is common sense and situational dependant.

I have been married twice. Once at the age of 22 to a 24 year old. We knew each other since high school and we lasted 3.5 years once married. I got divorced at 25. I dated 20, 22, and a 19 year old, why because they were still at the age where they wanted to have fun, and my life was too serious too early!

Then when I was 28 I met an 18 year old. We were acquaintances through her sisters (my age and older), and had been hanging around each other for years, but never hardly even talked. I Mean she was just some kid at the time. Well she matured and we started talking and had a bond. We were married later that year.......Yes 18 and 28. It was an unexpected, unplanned whirlwind surprise for us and others.

Well, I am now 40 and she is 30 and we are still married. We host christmas every year for her family, and we hang out during the year still with them and have a great time. She had a troubled youth and her sisters are happy she found someone to pull her up instead of down.

My wife owns her own business and I do well managing a large printing company and do vinyl graphics as a side business.

We are going on our 12th year of marriage and making future plans to move to the other side of the country together to "refresh our lives" and mix life up a bit. NO kids yet ()


MY point is, as someone in a close age relationship, it is so easy to cast aspersions and judge but life and god has its own plans for you.

UNDER AGE IS A NO NO for any age even 19 to 16. But they can remain friends and call and say hello now and then, and when she becomes more mature and sets her life plans up (college, job, etc.) she will have a better idea of what she really wants from life. Most guys at 25 are about equal to an 18 year old woman in maturity anyway. But the guy should always be respectful of her parents and if it makes them uncomfortable, he should back off. Because without all parents being OK with things, life will never be good.

And for the dads, that get upset at the thoughts of daughters with older guys I will pass on what my brother once said. My brother has 3 great kids. 2 daughters and a son (Daughters 18 and 16, and Son 13).
I asked him how he puts up with his young girls with the guys coming around and such and he said, "the more I show them I do not like something they are doing, the more likely I am to cause that very thing I dislike. I just try and educate them and let them see and learn things for themselves. I am always there for them and they trust me more when I give them freedom. They almost always listen and do not even realize it."

My brother is a great dad and has a trouble free household. One daughter in college with a boyfriend (couple years older) doing well. The 16 year old daughter has not gotten serious with a boy and likes to "just hang out" in groups.

As a planner and a moral person, I learned one thing.........The hard way...........NEVER say NEVER and act like you got it all figured out, because that is when life jumps up and bites you on the a$$. Stay open minded and never lump things in categories, because everything is an individual situation with thousands of variables. But if you respect others and put others needs ahead of your own, you will never loose!! TRUST ME!

[MyIBMssRS]

To Catch a Predator called, they'd like in on this story......

[Legend]

16 is too young to be in a serious relationship. Give her a couple years say 18 or 19 and yeah, might be ready to decide what she wants. Depends on her maturity really...

I met my wife when she was 18, married at 19....I am 5 years older than her and it's been 20 awesome years together now. This age gap is a little larger but still...she's 16!

16 is just too young...I don't really think much about his age, but 16 is too young. The age gap is something to consider but not the end of the relationship...her being 16 though...that's the end of the relationship at least for a couple years!

[BlackSS831]

[MyIBMssRS]

Originally Posted by BlackSS831

That's too funny!

[2SSmeCamaro]

Way too young for him! If her parents find out and don't approve it, he can be in some deep s**t. I had a buddy with similar scenario.....hes still in jail. So yeah, thats a big NEGATRON!

[UCI CamaroFan]

your friend is an idiot.

[SSOOCH]

She is way too young for him. Not to mention it's against the law!

Tell your friend to date Ladies his own age. Not little girls.

[Xanthos]

Originally Posted by SSOOCH

She is way too young for him. Not to mention it's against the law!

While I do agree with you thats its too much of an age gap, I also want to point out that it is not necessarily against the law. The age of consent is not set federally, but on a state by state level. Here in Oklahoma, for example, 16 is the age of consent.
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