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Steve Dallas · 09-08-2011, 01:18 PM

If you've broken up with him, then there should be no reason to speak to him again. If he calls, ignore it (especially if you have caller ID). If he leaves a message, delete it immediately.

Why bother with him anymore. He is doing this to push your buttons...just don't allow that to happen.

Nvincent4708 · 09-08-2011, 01:18 PM

time for a new guy.. a mature and intelligent one at that.

brandotron · 09-08-2011, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Tessa

Some people are just crazy - they have a need to be adored even if they are the biggest assholes on the planet (I married one, I am fluent in asshole

). Even after lying, stealing, cheating - he STILL thought if he played nice I'd forgive him and walk away with nothing in the divorce. Fcker has no goddamned clue who I am

This guy knows the BS you put up with, knows how to manipulate you and con you - b/c he's done it before. In his mind - you can't possibly change. He sees you still as that girl that let him beat her down and make her feel worthless. (or whatever extent that fits how it went down - some of us sink further before we fight back).

He has no idea that by packing up and leaving, you left that girl you used to be behind and he has NO shot with you anymore. Just ignore him, don't talk to him, just let him go away.

Best damn advice in the whole thread here.

Rogue Leader · 09-08-2011, 02:00 PM

My ex broke up with me a few years ago, I ended the call on a bit of an argument with her, I won't get into the whole story. But after that I never once spoke to her since. No phone calls, no emails, I blocked her on facebook If eh had called I wouldn't have answered. I don't want her to see pictures of me with my new girlfriend. I don't want her to see me at all or have anything to so with me.

Some people just don't get it, if your ex doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you anymore, why be a jerk about it, or worse demean yourself by begging for their attention. He needs to learn this. And you should block him, maybe he will learn.

Iwantone2 · 09-08-2011, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by goval

Tell him you found someone else and he will stop. Here are the reasons he still contacts you:
-Loneliness
-He still likes you and knows he lost a good girl
-He knows you are still single and he thinks he might have a chance

If he is stalking you, then there is only one solution: Contact the police. Better be safe than sorry.

Usually, it makes the person try even more to "annoy" the other person...

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tessa

Some people are just crazy - they have a need to be adored even if they are the biggest assholes on the planet (I married one, I am fluent in asshole

). Even after lying, stealing, cheating - he STILL thought if he played nice I'd forgive him and walk away with nothing in the divorce. Fcker has no goddamned clue who I am

This guy knows the BS you put up with, knows how to manipulate you and con you - b/c he's done it before. In his mind - you can't possibly change. He sees you still as that girl that let him beat her down and make her feel worthless. (or whatever extent that fits how it went down - some of us sink further before we fight back).

He has no idea that by packing up and leaving, you left that girl you used to be behind and he has NO shot with you anymore. Just ignore him, don't talk to him, just let him go away.

I can feel your anger...it gives you focus, makes you stronger

Tessa · 09-08-2011, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by brandotron

Best damn advice in the whole thread here.

Thank you, thank you - I'm here every day

Quote:

Originally Posted by Iwantone2

I can feel your anger...it gives you focus, makes you stronger

It did - yes. I got over it. But it doesn't mean that I would accept that kind of treatment again. Or like seeing others deal with that.

NYJets77 · 09-08-2011, 03:15 PM

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Originally Posted by monstertodd

Based on your second paragraph, simple answer is that he regrets screwing up the relationship. He knows exactly what he did to screw it up, knows there is nothing he can do about it now, and also knows that the girl he took to the concert is no where near as wonderful as you are.

I'd say the internet canoodling is indicative that while he was with you, he wasn't certain if he was happy being with you or not. He knew he liked being with you, and probably had strong feelings for you, but he wasn't entirely sure that he didn't prefer the company of someone else.

totally DISAGREE. He wanted his cake and eat it too. Now he's not getting any cake, so he's calling the bakery again. (this analogy is starting to break down). If they got back together, the crap would start up again.

Next time he calls, tell him its time for him to move on, because you have. Then politely tell him to stop calling.

motorhead · 09-08-2011, 03:20 PM

None of this would have happened if you would have just talked less and put out more.

BowtieBelle · 09-08-2011, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by motorhead

None of this would have happened if you would have just talked less and put out more.

Trust me, that was never one of his complaints.

motorhead · 09-08-2011, 03:21 PM

Kidding in the above post of course. Drop the dick for good and don't look back. Tell him your riding a new horse now and that he means nothing.

ParisTNDude · 09-08-2011, 03:27 PM

He's trying to keep YOU as a "fall back" option! Always a good plan for a cheater!

brandotron · 09-08-2011, 03:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rogue Leader

My ex broke up with me a few years ago, I ended the call on a bit of an argument with her, I won't get into the whole story. But after that I never once spoke to her since. No phone calls, no emails, I blocked her on facebook If eh had called I wouldn't have answered. I don't want her to see pictures of me with my new girlfriend. I don't want her to see me at all or have anything to so with me.

Some people just don't get it, if your ex doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you anymore, why be a jerk about it, or worse demean yourself by begging for their attention. He needs to learn this. And you should block him, maybe he will learn.

I blocked my ex on the facebooks. Why leave the door open for more aggravation?

Quote:

Originally Posted by NYJets77

He wanted his cake and eat it too. Now he's not getting any cake, so he's calling the bakery again. (this analogy is starting to break down).

NYJets77 · 09-08-2011, 03:50 PM

just thought of something, but its kind of mean.

Next time he calls and mentions all the girls he's getting with, tell him about your recent experience (since you two can share these things now): your new lover (not boyfriend - its got to sound a little tawdry) does this thing with his <fill in body part of your choice here, but I'd go with tongue) that drives you insanely wild. So much so that there's "instant arrival".

Pure pwnage.

JETG · 09-08-2011, 03:50 PM

Just stop talking to him, nothing gained from it at all. Once they are a ex, they stay that way and no reason to revisit what didnt work. Why torment yourself because of someone you dumped.

Why is it that women date loosers ??? then grip about it ??? never understood that. Then have a nice guy and get what they want then treat him like crap. Thank god I am single, and loving life !!!

09-08-2011, 01:18 PM	#29
Steve Dallas Commits weekly crime Drives: 2017 Camaro 1LT Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Camano Island, WA Posts: 9,513 View My Garage	If you've broken up with him, then there should be no reason to speak to him again. If he calls, ignore it (especially if you have caller ID). If he leaves a message, delete it immediately. Why bother with him anymore. He is doing this to push your buttons...just don't allow that to happen. __________________ 2017 Camaro 1LT - Blue Barchetta IV I fire up the willing engine, responding with a roar. Tires spitting gravel I commit my weekly crime.

09-08-2011, 02:00 PM	#32
Rogue Leader Iatefiberglassinsulation Drives: 2010 Camaro 2SS M6 Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Long Island Posts: 3,601 View My Garage	My ex broke up with me a few years ago, I ended the call on a bit of an argument with her, I won't get into the whole story. But after that I never once spoke to her since. No phone calls, no emails, I blocked her on facebook If eh had called I wouldn't have answered. I don't want her to see pictures of me with my new girlfriend. I don't want her to see me at all or have anything to so with me. Some people just don't get it, if your ex doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you anymore, why be a jerk about it, or worse demean yourself by begging for their attention. He needs to learn this. And you should block him, maybe he will learn. __________________ 2010 Chevrolet Camaro SS - was daily driver, now toy 2020 Alfa Romeo Giulia Quadrifoglio - Daily Driver 2017 Mercedes Benz GLE 350 - Wifes Car 2008 Chevy Silverado 2500 HD LT 6.0 - Tow Vehicle 1991 Alfa Romeo 164S - Project Car 1994 Volkswagen Golf - Race Car "Like" my race team on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/farfrumwinnin

09-08-2011, 03:27 PM	#39
ParisTNDude Owning SSes for 50 Years Drives: Sharkskin Grey LT1 Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Paris, TN Posts: 3,139 View My Garage	Fall Back Option He's trying to keep YOU as a "fall back" option! Always a good plan for a cheater! __________________ The new ride: 2023 Camaro, LT1, Sharkskin Grey Previous Performance Cars: 1966 Chevelle SS 4M, 2010 Corvette 6M 1968 Dodge Charger R/T Auto 2012 1SS 6M 1982 Corvette Auto 2010 1SS 6A 1984 Corvette Auto 2016 2SS 8A 1999 Camaro Auto 2017 HBM 1SS 1le 2002 C5 Corvette 6M 2018 2SS 2006 Corvette Auto 2023 Camaro LT1

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