"depression" doesn't describe this feeling

[Jamie Mac]

Originally Posted by Jcc08

He's right. Someday that girl's going to be 38, single, and the end result of a series of bad relationships that didn't work out because she dated a bunch of loser guys. She's going to be bitter, angry, and full of regret because the one guy who really loved her and would have made a good husband she kicked to the curb.

And you'll be older, wiser, and married to some hottie with 2-3 kids and you'll laugh at the memory of how you could be so broken up about her.

You just described a former love of mine to a "t" although I think she's only 36 or 37 now

[Brokinarrow]

Originally Posted by camaro noob

I've never really considered the militarty before. As of now, I have a career plan. And I'll be working as a phlebotomist to help get me through my last two years of college. If I was lost on a career path as well and hurting for money, then I would concider the military.

Well seeing as I have NO idea what a phlebotomist is and you are able to do it while still doing college, I think you'll be fine without goin the military route heheh

[Paperer]

I've been on both ends of this kind of thing. I've moved on, and they've moved on. I don't talk to any of my ex's, and you get over them in a heartbeat. Like someone said earlier, go after her friends. Just get out in the social world and you pick up chicks easy. Go the gym, I've met lots of girls there, young and older. Heck, even MySpace can be used to help.

Life is wayyyyy to short and delicate to mope around about "The One"

[Brokinarrow]

Originally Posted by sharbaugh

To many Girls, To many cars.
Everything happens for a reason.
Chin up, move on, there are crazy fun things in life.
Do you really thing in your early 20's you would meet one woman and never have sex with another woman your whole life. Don't be silly.

too young to get tied down, see the world and party it up while you can!

[camaro noob]

=) thanks everyone. It really means a lot that you all are so supportive to a complete stranger that you've never even see. Seriously, God bless all of you.

A Phlebotomist is someone who draws blood and in some cases prepares it for processing. Me and her went through the training course together.

I have been seeing my councilor since I was 17. She really has help change me for the better. I really did use to be a complete jerk at one point in life. A few months into my relationship with the girl I love, she told me about how she had an eating disorder. I searched around for the proper help but ended up taking her to see my councilor in the end. I tried to help her mom by paying for half. And over time it worked too. I trust my councilor very much. And she has expressed that it's her job to help the needs of the individual person in each session, not play as my match-maker. I understand that, and don't see it as a conflict of interest.

I meant no offense in saying it's wrong to date an older person. The man she is with now is 11 to 12 years older than her. She had expressed before that I was a bit scary for her at first, being only 2 to 3 years older. I only suggested that because it's not like her to do something like that. It's very much against what her values used to be. And it seemed to happen so quickly. Please understand I meant no offense. But yes, I have dropped the matter. There is nothing I can do to control the action of others. Attempting to do so or believing I can is ignorance.

I am just very confused and hurt on so many different levels. I don't know what to think or do. About her or myself. Yes it's easy for me to go out and distract myself and have sex with every girl friend she knows and my ex's and that hot thing that works in McDonalds, but I won't do that. It's weird, but I kinda want to suffer right now. It's like that line from The Offspring song "Self-Esteem"

"...the more you suffer, the more it shows you really care...right?"

[songsj]

It's weird, but I kinda want to suffer right now.

It IS weird and to suffer needlessly is a waste of time and emotional energy.
I'm not saying you should go out and have revenge sex but there has to be some middle ground. Stop asking yourself why and stop trying to figure out a way to be sure this will never happen again. There are no answers to these questions. Grief is the price you pay for love. One way or the other, there is no escaping it, just the going through.