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jeffny09 · 02-23-2009, 11:01 AM

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Mr Twisty · 02-23-2009, 11:14 AM

That's all on you buddy...We had to live with that crap for years, it's your turn

Just say..."I'm sorry baby" ....A LOT!

dbotsfordtat · 02-23-2009, 11:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jeffny09

i got a problem sorta

my g/f says that i dont make her feel specialor loved enough- im not an emotional typde dude who can show feelings and all its just really not me

so i figured id come to yall and see if you guys and girls can give me hints on how to do so????
thanks friends

Ignore her, you give in to that whining she'll do it all the time.

diddiyo · 02-23-2009, 11:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jeffny09

my g/f says that i dont make her feel specialor loved enough

i assume you went to college and know what "the shocker" is?

Quote:

Originally Posted by dbotsfordtat

Ignore her, you give in to that whining she'll do it all the time.

This time flowers might do it, soon it's gotta be a Lambo.

scotchsride09 · 02-23-2009, 11:27 AM

Advice from a girl here: (oh, and a serious answer... ^^^ :-P )

It's what you do, more than what you say, that counts. (Though you need to say it too!) Here's some little things you can do that will help show how you feel (even if you don't really express it anyway, if you're on here asking for help that means you do care, so I'm going to assume you actually want some good advice.)

-Buy her flowers just because. Doesn't have to be anything fancy, but if you get roses, either intentionally get her favorite color (and then tell her that) or stick with red.

-Surprise her with a homemade dinner. Then light a couple candles. Even if you regularly cook, find a time when you can have everything ready or nearly ready and the candles lit for when she walks in the door.

-If she has a car, wash it for her, or take it to get its oil changed when it needs it.

-If it's raining and you get home before she does, meet her outside at her car with an umbrella.

-Open doors for her. This includes the car.

-If she likes/ can drink wine: learn something about it that she doesn't already know; or learn basic pairing with food and be a sommelier (wine expert) one night at dinner.

-Be considerate. If you get up earlier than her, prep the stuff you need in the bedroom the night before so you won't wake her up when you're getting ready.

-Go on dates. Tell her to dress up, dress up yourself, then take her somewhere, even if just to a movie and Denny's or something.

-Clean up after yourself. I cannot stress this enough. Especially if you guys live together, it's so important. And even if a chore is "her responsibility", if you do it every now and then she'll appreciate it no end.

-When all else fails, just ask. I can only tell you the things my boyfriend does that make me feel special, but every woman's different. She may like these things, or she may want something else. If you're just not sure, ask her. She'll appreciate the directness and that you cared. But ask genuinely. She may say "I don't know" which is a girl thing, which means I'd suggest you start somewhere with one of the things from my list above and see how she reacts.

-Most importantly of all, do SOMETHING regularly. You don't have to buy her flowers every week; but if you only do it once a year, to her it feels like you're just doing maintenance, not making an effort.

In conclusion, I know us women are fickle and hard to please, but if you're more confused you can look at what she's been doing for you lately. Did she get you a lot of stuff for Valentine's Day or other recent holidays? Has she been making an effort to do more for you that maybe stepped off the last few weeks? Women are demonstrative, we like to SHOW you what we want by doing it for you. Take a look at the things she's been doing for you and you might be able to see what she wants you to do for her to feel special.

gto_in_nc · 02-23-2009, 11:31 AM

Ummmm...

You are coming HERE for relationship advice???

Oooookay...

1) Tell her frequently that you love her (if it is true.)
2) Stop scoping other babes when you are with her.
3) Do nice things for her without expecting to be rewarded for it.
4) Make small, casual comments that are affirmative about her appearance (you like her hair, that sweater brings out the color in her eyes, those shoes accentuate her great legs, etc.)
5) Make a point of telling her about things that happen during your day that pleased you or displeased you and why.
6) LISTEN TO HER when she is telling you about HER feelings and her day.

Basically, treat her like a jewel that means something special to you IF you think she is a jewel and IF she is something special to you. Otherwise, cut her loose so she can find someone who DOES feel that way about her...

Just my two cents.

EDIT: Scotchsride09 posted her most excellent response while I was typing! Ignore anything in my post that seems to contradict her post...

BTW, her point about cleaning up after yourself is an excellent one. You doing chores to help her without her having to beg you to is something you should just consider to be part of foreplay!

*CamaroSpike23* · 02-23-2009, 11:54 AM

falcon punch?

dbotsfordtat · 02-23-2009, 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by scotchsride09

Advice from a girl here: (oh, and a serious answer... ^^^ :-P )

It's what you do, more than what you say, that counts. (Though you need to say it too!) Here's some little things you can do that will help show how you feel (even if you don't really express it anyway, if you're on here asking for help that means you do care, so I'm going to assume you actually want some good advice.)

-Buy her flowers just because. Doesn't have to be anything fancy, but if you get roses, either intentionally get her favorite color (and then tell her that) or stick with red.

-Surprise her with a homemade dinner. Then light a couple candles. Even if you regularly cook, find a time when you can have everything ready or nearly ready and the candles lit for when she walks in the door.

-If she has a car, wash it for her, or take it to get its oil changed when it needs it.

-If it's raining and you get home before she does, meet her outside at her car with an umbrella.

-Open doors for her. This includes the car.

-If she likes/ can drink wine: learn something about it that she doesn't already know; or learn basic pairing with food and be a sommelier (wine expert) one night at dinner.

-Be considerate. If you get up earlier than her, prep the stuff you need in the bedroom the night before so you won't wake her up when you're getting ready.

-Go on dates. Tell her to dress up, dress up yourself, then take her somewhere, even if just to a movie and Denny's or something.

-Clean up after yourself. I cannot stress this enough. Especially if you guys live together, it's so important. And even if a chore is "her responsibility", if you do it every now and then she'll appreciate it no end.

-When all else fails, just ask. I can only tell you the things my boyfriend does that make me feel special, but every woman's different. She may like these things, or she may want something else. If you're just not sure, ask her. She'll appreciate the directness and that you cared. But ask genuinely. She may say "I don't know" which is a girl thing, which means I'd suggest you start somewhere with one of the things from my list above and see how she reacts.

-Most importantly of all, do SOMETHING regularly. You don't have to buy her flowers every week; but if you only do it once a year, to her it feels like you're just doing maintenance, not making an effort.

In conclusion, I know us women are fickle and hard to please, but if you're more confused you can look at what she's been doing for you lately. Did she get you a lot of stuff for Valentine's Day or other recent holidays? Has she been making an effort to do more for you that maybe stepped off the last few weeks? Women are demonstrative, we like to SHOW you what we want by doing it for you. Take a look at the things she's been doing for you and you might be able to see what she wants you to do for her to feel special.

*Mr. Wyndham* · 02-23-2009, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by CamaroSpike23

falcon punch?

The first thing that came to my mind was the phrase "high maintinance"...but then again, I'm no good in relationships.......

I suppose you've gotta do something for her every once in a while. Enhance a lot of your common courtesies just for her, if that makes sense....but that book of a post above (

), though clearly helpful, scares the crap out of me: I'm no butler.

scotchsride09 · 02-23-2009, 01:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dbotsfordtat

Ignore her, you give in to that whining she'll do it all the time.

Or leave your a**.

Mac1 · 02-23-2009, 01:45 PM

Why do you need her? Get rid of her.

Mr Twisty · 02-23-2009, 02:12 PM

Sounds like someone needs a good spankin!

But seriously, scotch has some good advice...especially the small stuff...like...clean up after yourself you pig!

And even the shocker isn't effective after a few weeks

...Unless you meant to say 'cattle prod'

pinkcamaro10 · 02-23-2009, 02:17 PM

wow there are some REALLY immature people on this forum... wow

Scotch, very nice post.

Just do something nice for her out of the norm, she will appreciate it. And if you don't want to make the effort, just take a second and picture your life without her, if you can do that then i guess don't even make the effort, and whats bound to happen will happen.

badaSS2010 · 02-23-2009, 02:23 PM

Lucky 4 u ur camaro will love you without expectations!!! (sorry no advice I'm a wife..different standards)

02-23-2009, 11:01 AM	#1
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02-23-2009, 11:14 AM	#2
Mr Twisty Drives: the 2nd amendment home Join Date: May 2008 Location: OK Posts: 14,763	That's all on you buddy...We had to live with that crap for years, it's your turn Just say..."I'm sorry baby" ....A LOT! __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." -- Benjamin Franklin lib·er·ty /ˈlibərdē/ noun 1. the state of being free within society from oppressive restrictions imposed by authority on one's way of life, behavior, or political views

02-23-2009, 11:27 AM	#5
scotchsride09 It's STARSCREAM!!! Drives: 2003 Nissan Frontier S/C DR Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 301	Advice from a girl here: (oh, and a serious answer... ^^^ :-P ) It's what you do, more than what you say, that counts. (Though you need to say it too!) Here's some little things you can do that will help show how you feel (even if you don't really express it anyway, if you're on here asking for help that means you do care, so I'm going to assume you actually want some good advice.) -Buy her flowers just because. Doesn't have to be anything fancy, but if you get roses, either intentionally get her favorite color (and then tell her that) or stick with red. -Surprise her with a homemade dinner. Then light a couple candles. Even if you regularly cook, find a time when you can have everything ready or nearly ready and the candles lit for when she walks in the door. -If she has a car, wash it for her, or take it to get its oil changed when it needs it. -If it's raining and you get home before she does, meet her outside at her car with an umbrella. -Open doors for her. This includes the car. -If she likes/ can drink wine: learn something about it that she doesn't already know; or learn basic pairing with food and be a sommelier (wine expert) one night at dinner. -Be considerate. If you get up earlier than her, prep the stuff you need in the bedroom the night before so you won't wake her up when you're getting ready. -Go on dates. Tell her to dress up, dress up yourself, then take her somewhere, even if just to a movie and Denny's or something. -Clean up after yourself. I cannot stress this enough. Especially if you guys live together, it's so important. And even if a chore is "her responsibility", if you do it every now and then she'll appreciate it no end. -When all else fails, just ask. I can only tell you the things my boyfriend does that make me feel special, but every woman's different. She may like these things, or she may want something else. If you're just not sure, ask her. She'll appreciate the directness and that you cared. But ask genuinely. She may say "I don't know" which is a girl thing, which means I'd suggest you start somewhere with one of the things from my list above and see how she reacts. -Most importantly of all, do SOMETHING regularly. You don't have to buy her flowers every week; but if you only do it once a year, to her it feels like you're just doing maintenance, not making an effort. In conclusion, I know us women are fickle and hard to please, but if you're more confused you can look at what she's been doing for you lately. Did she get you a lot of stuff for Valentine's Day or other recent holidays? Has she been making an effort to do more for you that maybe stepped off the last few weeks? Women are demonstrative, we like to SHOW you what we want by doing it for you. Take a look at the things she's been doing for you and you might be able to see what she wants you to do for her to feel special. __________________ Did I mention I have a sense of humor? Right now it's an '03 Nissan Frontier Supercharged Desert Runner I call Starscream. On order is a 1SS/ RS IBM with Black Rally Stripes, Beige Interior, manual transmission and a sunroof! Oh, and a stereo upgrade too! Ordered from CamaroScotty in WI. How will I get my baby home?

02-23-2009, 02:12 PM	#12
Mr Twisty Drives: the 2nd amendment home Join Date: May 2008 Location: OK Posts: 14,763	Sounds like someone needs a good spankin! But seriously, scotch has some good advice...especially the small stuff...like...clean up after yourself you pig! And even the shocker isn't effective after a few weeks ...Unless you meant to say 'cattle prod' __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." -- Benjamin Franklin lib·er·ty /ˈlibərdē/ noun 1. the state of being free within society from oppressive restrictions imposed by authority on one's way of life, behavior, or political views

02-23-2009, 02:17 PM	#13
pinkcamaro10 2G1FC1EV1A9110079 Drives: 2010 2LT/RS, 2013 2SS/RS 1LE Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Arizona Posts: 4,752 View My Garage	wow there are some REALLY immature people on this forum... wow Scotch, very nice post. Just do something nice for her out of the norm, she will appreciate it. And if you don't want to make the effort, just take a second and picture your life without her, if you can do that then i guess don't even make the effort, and whats bound to happen will happen. __________________

02-23-2009, 11:31 AM	#6
gto_in_nc Drives: 1997 Jeep Wrangler -for now... Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wilmington, NC Posts: 67	Ummmm... You are coming HERE for relationship advice??? Oooookay... 1) Tell her frequently that you love her (if it is true.) 2) Stop scoping other babes when you are with her. 3) Do nice things for her without expecting to be rewarded for it. 4) Make small, casual comments that are affirmative about her appearance (you like her hair, that sweater brings out the color in her eyes, those shoes accentuate her great legs, etc.) 5) Make a point of telling her about things that happen during your day that pleased you or displeased you and why. 6) LISTEN TO HER when she is telling you about HER feelings and her day. Basically, treat her like a jewel that means something special to you IF you think she is a jewel and IF she is something special to you. Otherwise, cut her loose so she can find someone who DOES feel that way about her... Just my two cents. EDIT: Scotchsride09 posted her most excellent response while I was typing! Ignore anything in my post that seems to contradict her post... BTW, her point about cleaning up after yourself is an excellent one. You doing chores to help her without her having to beg you to is something you should just consider to be part of foreplay!

02-23-2009, 01:45 PM	#11
Mac1 Drives: 2004 Malibu Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: New York Posts: 360	Why do you need her? Get rid of her.

02-23-2009, 02:23 PM	#14
badaSS2010 NE 1need rehab4this site? Drives: Black 2SS/RS; 20" polished Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Chester County, PA Posts: 9	Lucky 4 u ur camaro will love you without expectations!!! (sorry no advice I'm a wife..different standards)