Over The Hill Gang , Old Farts with Young Cars

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Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Ugh - not so happy this Monday.... So tired... Yesterday was a veeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyyy long day. Up at o'dark thirty to head to the car show after being up late. As soon as we get to the show, my husband gets a call from his dad saying mom-in-law has taken a turn for the worse... We stayed at the show a while, but did leave a little early and went to visit mom-in-law. She's in a very nice hospice house now - her room is actually a suite, with a separate room for my father-in-law so he can get some sleep - with amazing around the clock nursing staff. They finally got her pain under control, but she's started having seizures. The GREAT thing about yesterday? A colleague of my mom-in-law went to some mucky-mucks at the University of Washington, and talked them into giving mom-in-law her PhD (she had been working on her thesis) - having that velvet cowl placed around her neck and hearing "doctor" before her name brought the biggest smile to her face. She had been working so hard for that.
My stepson opted not to come with us, because he wants to remember grandma "the way she was" - this was a very good choice..... she didn't look good at all...

Very sorry I know how hard this is...been thru a rough time with my mother-in-law the past week or so...praying for your family.

[CC Performance]

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Ugh - not so happy this Monday.... So tired... Yesterday was a veeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyyy long day. Up at o'dark thirty to head to the car show after being up late. As soon as we get to the show, my husband gets a call from his dad saying mom-in-law has taken a turn for the worse... We stayed at the show a while, but did leave a little early and went to visit mom-in-law. She's in a very nice hospice house now - her room is actually a suite, with a separate room for my father-in-law so he can get some sleep - with amazing around the clock nursing staff. They finally got her pain under control, but she's started having seizures. The GREAT thing about yesterday? A colleague of my mom-in-law went to some mucky-mucks at the University of Washington, and talked them into giving mom-in-law her PhD (she had been working on her thesis) - having that velvet cowl placed around her neck and hearing "doctor" before her name brought the biggest smile to her face. She had been working so hard for that.
My stepson opted not to come with us, because he wants to remember grandma "the way she was" - this was a very good choice..... she didn't look good at all...

I've been there as an 18 yr old with my grandmother. We were both in the hospital and I went to see her. She was in horrible shape and I remember it to this day 29 years later. I could not go to the funeral. This has been a tough year. You have my deepest sympathies. It sounds like she got to enjoy a good moment though and that is important, something to hang on to. There are time when thats the only thing that keeps you going...( I talked to my dad the night before he passed and we shared a few laughs. I keep that moment and what he had said about being proud of my son and being proud of me for raising such a good family/kids.) Does it hurt still? Yes of course it does. You love these people.... I wish your husband the best, I know how he must feel..its not an easy thing to go through... you think as we get older it would be easier but its not the case.. I have days where I just don't understand and really cant do anything per the depression. My wife and I have lost both dads this year and a couple of friends. The older we get the more we are tested it seems.. If there is anything I can do, let me know.

[lightning]

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Ugh - not so happy this Monday.... So tired... Yesterday was a veeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyyy long day. Up at o'dark thirty to head to the car show after being up late. As soon as we get to the show, my husband gets a call from his dad saying mom-in-law has taken a turn for the worse... We stayed at the show a while, but did leave a little early and went to visit mom-in-law. She's in a very nice hospice house now - her room is actually a suite, with a separate room for my father-in-law so he can get some sleep - with amazing around the clock nursing staff. They finally got her pain under control, but she's started having seizures. The GREAT thing about yesterday? A colleague of my mom-in-law went to some mucky-mucks at the University of Washington, and talked them into giving mom-in-law her PhD (she had been working on her thesis) - having that velvet cowl placed around her neck and hearing "doctor" before her name brought the biggest smile to her face. She had been working so hard for that.
My stepson opted not to come with us, because he wants to remember grandma "the way she was" - this was a very good choice..... she didn't look good at all...

Big hugs coming your way sweet lady.

[dianeokie]

So sorry for you having to go through this, ladybugsmom. I know several of us have had some significant losses in the past year. Guess it's a part of getting older. But it really isn't easier....

I've been reflecting on my attitude, and although I've always been a glass half full kind of person and tried to look for the positive, I've added to my outlook on life.

This is a quote from a Nickleback song that I recently have become a fan of

"My best friend gave me the best advice, he said each day's a gift and not a given right. Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind." From If Today Was Your Last Day.

We just have to keep going and be thankful for what we have.

I'm thinking of you all, 'cause you're my friends now.

[Ladybugsmom]

Originally Posted by dianeokie

So sorry for you having to go through this, ladybugsmom. I know several of us have had some significant losses in the past year. Guess it's a part of getting older. But it really isn't easier....

I've been reflecting on my attitude, and although I've always been a glass half full kind of person and tried to look for the positive, I've added to my outlook on life.

This is a quote from a Nickleback song that I recently have become a fan of

"My best friend gave me the best advice, he said each day's a gift and not a given right. Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind." From If Today Was Your Last Day.

We just have to keep going and be thankful for what we have.

I'm thinking of you all, 'cause you're my friends now.

My mom-in-law loves Nickeback! We switched the music in her room from some classical CDs the nurses had put on to her iPod yesterday, Nickelback is on there... she was singing...

[rjdapilmoto]

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Ugh - not so happy this Monday.... So tired... Yesterday was a veeeeerrrrrrrryyyyyyy long day. Up at o'dark thirty to head to the car show after being up late. As soon as we get to the show, my husband gets a call from his dad saying mom-in-law has taken a turn for the worse... We stayed at the show a while, but did leave a little early and went to visit mom-in-law. She's in a very nice hospice house now - her room is actually a suite, with a separate room for my father-in-law so he can get some sleep - with amazing around the clock nursing staff. They finally got her pain under control, but she's started having seizures. The GREAT thing about yesterday? A colleague of my mom-in-law went to some mucky-mucks at the University of Washington, and talked them into giving mom-in-law her PhD (she had been working on her thesis) - having that velvet cowl placed around her neck and hearing "doctor" before her name brought the biggest smile to her face. She had been working so hard for that.
My stepson opted not to come with us, because he wants to remember grandma "the way she was" - this was a very good choice..... she didn't look good at all...

Sorry about the news concerning your mother-in-law....She's in my prayers.

[hotrodsally]

Ladybugsmom,

Peace to you and your family.

HotRod

[RubyCamaro]

Sorry to hear of your mother-in-law's condition. Really glad she was able to get her PhD. Really nice moment. Having just lost my mother & struggling to deal with my dad's altzheimer's, I know how hard this all is on everyone. Hang on to each other, enjoy the moments that you have & take care of yourselves. Your family will be in my thoughts & prayers.

[Ladybugsmom]

Thank you ALL so much for the prayers and kind words. Had a good day today - they put mom-in-law on a continuous infusion of a sedative in addition to her pain meds, and she's much calmer. Also, we sat around telling stories and laughing, and it seemed that the laughter calmed her even more - she was sleeping like a baby most of the time, and that made all of US feel better as well...

[lightning]

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Thank you ALL so much for the prayers and kind words. Had a good day today - they put mom-in-law on a continuous infusion of a sedative in addition to her pain meds, and she's much calmer. Also, we sat around telling stories and laughing, and it seemed that the laughter calmed her even more - she was sleeping like a baby most of the time, and that made all of US feel better as well...

Love you and yours LBM.

[dianeokie]

Originally Posted by Ladybugsmom

Thank you ALL so much for the prayers and kind words. Had a good day today - they put mom-in-law on a continuous infusion of a sedative in addition to her pain meds, and she's much calmer. Also, we sat around telling stories and laughing, and it seemed that the laughter calmed her even more - she was sleeping like a baby most of the time, and that made all of US feel better as well...

Glad you all are having a better day today. Hang in there and take care of yourselves!

On a lighter note, it looks like my Oklahoma is getting a little rain in places....yee haw!

[Mr Twisty]

Originally Posted by dianeokie

Glad you all are having a better day today. Hang in there and take care of yourselves!

On a lighter note, it looks like my Oklahoma is getting a little rain in places....yee haw!

Not everywhere :(

[dianeokie]

Originally Posted by lightning

Sorry

A thought just occurred to me this morning that Lightning might have taken this to heart.....I was just joking....that is the ultimate in romance, you all were so sweet! Hope I didn't hurt your feelings!

[Mr Twisty]

Men do crazy stuff sometimes